The Body Remembers Trauma: What about Remembering Healing?
Recently I have been reading medical papers on the effects of positive and negative experiences on the body. It will be no surprise to you, for example, that grief affects us physically, especially early on e.g. an immune imbalance, sleep changes, cortisol release, increased mortality rates, even a change to the shape of our hearts.
And of course the reverse is true, when we experience joyful, positive events our bodies release dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin, and you will experience the corners of your mouth and eyes curling up: you know the score!
You will also know that much of this can go unnoticed, subconsciously whilst we busy ourselves in the hustle of daily life. Makes me wonder how often we miss the cues that our bodies are signalling to us, whispering 'Aah, I remember this and it's really good'.
During a practice run of our retreat day, we were struck that despite feeling anticipation and being distracted in our thoughts about our performance as soon as we arrived at Gayles Retreat centre our bodies dropped down a gear, almost sighing with immediate relief. My breathing changed almost mid-sentence. In that moment if my body had a voice I imagine it may have said 'Never-mind what you are thinking, here is your smile back, let's soak this up'.
It got me thinking about The Compound Effect: all those accrued moments of joy, healing or nourishment our bodies soaks up at a neurological and cellular level. Yes of course it stores pain and suffering & helps us know what to avoid, but it can also remind us of what is healing and nourishing and what we need more of at any given time. Our breath alone can tell us so much 🌬.
Remembering this might even motivate us to seek out those experiences more often, especially when we feel least likely to do so.
So, what can your body tell you about healing and how does it show you this?
Take care,
Sam & Jude 🌿
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🌿 Do you know how to apply your empathy brakes?
As therapists, empathy is often one of our greatest assets, allowing us to understand and connect with our clients at a meaningful level. But being constantly tuned in to the painful emotions of others has an impact on own nervous systems and can take a toll on our well-being over time.
To balance things out in our bodies, it’s important to slow this down and reconnect with ourselves throughout the working day. These self-care micro-moments can also help our clients: if we can reset our bodies, we’re more likely to be fully present, resourced and grounded for them.
So we'd like to share our top three empathy brakes, taken from Babette Rothchild’s great book Help the Helper:
- From time to time during a session, sit back and take a micro-moment to notice the back of your chair against your body;
- Take your attention away from the trunk of your body to your peripherals e.g. wiggle your fingers and toes;
- After the end of a session, deliberately change your facial expression to change up your emotions. This tells your brain and body that you're okay.
Take care,
Jude & Sam 🌿